Published by: Jamaica Observer | January 1, 2017
know that sometimes at work I seem to come off a bit quirky as often my views
are so very different from everyone else. For example, I no longer drink
because of health and religious reasons. I try to keep my reasons private, but
based on the fact that I no longer hang out with the crew at work, I felt it
was generally known. What then is the probability that I was the only one my
boss gave a bottle of liquor (good quality I might add) as the office gift? Do
you think my boss was being spiteful, as I am viewing this as discrimination? I
feel like sending it back to him through the mail or throwing it down the sink.
Should I tell him I am dissatisfied?
giving of gifts by a manager to his/her staff is usually the company’s way of
showing appreciation and in some instances to affirm workers for positive or
outstanding contribution to the success of the entity. I would exercise caution
in drawing the conclusion that your gift of fine wine is an act of
discrimination. Could it be that your boss does not fully understand that you
have completely given up alcohol because you may not have communicated this as
clearly as you thought?
the gift would be perceived as being in poor taste and would likely create a
wedge in an otherwise professional and uncontentious work relationship. Thank
your boss for his thoughtfulness in giving you a gift to ring in the festive
season. You could try to insert a bit of humour by referring to your gift as
having the potential of putting much spirit in the season.
is evident that you are very committed to the new path you have chosen.
However, instead of emptying the contents down the sink, you could consider
re-gifting and making someone else happy. Another option would be to add a bow
or wreath and keep it as a decorative piece in your workspace during the
season, adding decorative tape over the seal to reduce your temptation, if any,
to consume the contents. Your appreciation for the kind gesture will be
evident. And who knows, perhaps over time, as your boss notices the fine wine
has not been consumed, this may create an opportunity to engage him in a
conversation about your health choices and new way of life.
the absence of clear evidence of there being any malicious intent, give the benefit
of the doubt. Enjoy the holidays with a heart full of gratitude and much
anticipation for what is to come in 2017.
Marie Smith is associate vice-president of student affairs at Northern
Caribbean University in Mandeville, Manchester. Submit your questions to her at email@example.com